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It’s All in Your Perspective

December 24, 2011

I was in a grocery store line this past week, waiting to check out. As usual, I followed my list and remembered a few other items along the way, ending up with a fairly full buggy. Why does it seem as though we always need more food in the house?

Behind me in line was a woman and her husband. They had a very full buggy. She commented to me that it looked as though we would both be doing the same thing—feeding our families for Christmas. I smiled and nodded. She then proceeded to tell me that she had been doing this for 50 or so years, and that it should be someone else’s turn! With three grown children and lots of grandkids, she had done her time with the Christmas dinner. Oh, and why would they even want to come to her house, since they all have much bigger homes with lots of room? Her home is tiny in comparison.

Perspective. I suddenly recalled wonderful memories of returning to the home where I had spent lots of my growing-up years. It was a spacious farm-house in the middle of corn and bean fields. My favorite thing to do when I went “home,” besides eating my mom’s wonderful meals, was sleep. It was so quiet and peaceful there in the country. I could totally relax. As my family grew to include a husband, children and dog, they felt the same sentiments.

So, I felt compelled to let my new acquaintance know this. The reason her children liked to come home for Christmas was because it was comforting and safe. How wonderful to have that relationship, when many families are at odds and may not even be speaking to one another. Yes, it is lots of work to cook for a house full of people who probably need a nap after dinner. My suggestion to her: Let them know how happy she is that they can be together, and ask early on for help in the cleanup. How many times would there be less misunderstanding and feelings of resentment, if we would only ask for what it is we need?

When a situation gets on your nerves, try turning it around to a positive. Maybe it’s not possible, but maybe it is. Decide to enjoy the people you love, because it is a choice we make every day. God Bless~

“We all have the power to give away love, to love other people. And if we do so, we change the kind of person we are, and we change the kind of world we live in.” Harold Kushner

Are You Ready for Christmas?

December 22, 2011

Christmas

It is December 22. Have you been asked that question recently? How did you respond? Did the question evoke any specific emotion, or some anxiety perhaps? I have been asked this numerous times in the past few days. Well, am I?

In the traditional sense, no. I still have shopping, wrapping, decorating, baking, cards…yes, the whole Christmas routine… to complete pretty darn quick. So, here I sit, listening to Josh Groban sing Christmas songs to me. Sweet! The traffic is nuts, so I decided I should take some time away from the outer world. Can you relate?

Things eventually seem to get done when you need them to. Have you noticed that? Whether you are having guests for dinner or planning a huge party, things just seem to fall together, right on time. Being ready for Christmas falls into this same category.

However, my thinking is a bit different when I hear this question. I believe Christmas is something we need to be ready for everyday. To quote my poem, “Choices,” we would be wise to “carry the spirit of Christmas throughout the year.” Think what a different world it would be if we did! What if we prepared for each day by deciding to be kinder and more compassionate to everyone that crosses our path? How would we behave if we truly believe that what goes around comes around? Would we do anything differently if we knew that Jesus had it in His day planner to show up tomorrow? Well, would we?

A nice winter’s nap sounds quite appealing right about now, but I must put forth a bit of effort to bring about some Christmas cheer. Guess I had better finish those cards….

“For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” Isaiah 9:6 NIV

Healthy Ideas from December 12, 2011

December 13, 2011

Health

Here are some highlights from last evening’s Healthy Living Exchange that focus on a topic that is huge this time of year (and all year!): FOOD

Decide now what your health will look like as you enter 2012. We have several weeks to make a plan that will serve us toward better health, rather than simply allowing the holiday season to have its way with us.

1. Decide on the weight you would like to be the first week of January. Be a realist. If you are on a course to shed some pounds, continue on your set plan with that picture in your mind. To maintain the weight you currently own, set a course to keep you there. Make the decision now to eat balanced meals and healthy snacks, keeping an attack on the Christmas cookies to a minimum. This does not mean you have to avoid every delicious treat that passes your way. This does mean that you must make the choice now on how you plan to handle those special times.

2. Exercise. Make an appointment in your day planner like you would any other appointment. Have scheduled times to walk with a friend or meet at the gym for a workout. Accountability is huge here. What a great gift for someone you care about and yourself!

3. Be nice to you. Set aside a bit of time, perhaps 15 minutes or so, each day to do something that makes you happy. Read a great book, take a nap, soak in the tub, write Christmas cards, you get the idea. Drink plenty of water (add lemon/lime if it is not your favorite) and get plenty of rest. How can you be the light if your candle is about to be extinguished? Answer: You can’t.

Our protein shake of the month is chocolate mint. To make it, I took some original almond milk, a few ice cubes, Arbonne chocolate protein, Breyer’s Mint Chocolate Chip ice cream (small scoop), and a handful of fresh spinach. (No, you do not taste the spinach unless you use over 2 cups. Lots of healthy benefits by adding spinach to any smoothie or shake.) Swirl in the blender. Delicious! To cut calories, you could substitute a bit of peppermint extract for the ice cream. If you prefer to avoid protein powder, try a bit of cocoa powder, keeping in mind that it is not sweet.

We also tried raspberry Kefir. Kefir is like yogurt that is liquid. There are several flavors or plain to choose from. This product adds the good bacteria we need to keep our digestive health happy. Perhaps you are familiar with the term probiotics. Lots of those in Kefir! This may be added to any smoothie, or simply enjoyed as is. Kefir is located near the yogurt section of most grocery stores.

In combination, these ideas could help us all enjoy a more balanced entry into a new and exciting year, if we choose to implement them into our daily life today.

“Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.” 3 John 2 NIV

Where are your Gifts?

December 12, 2011

Spiritual

Only 13 days until Christmas. Where are your Gifts? I do not mean the gifts we look for in stores and in catalogues or on the internet. Where are the Gifts only YOU were created to give? In this season of Advent, it is the Gifts only you are able to give that can make a difference in making the world brighter!

Do you know someone who is rather sad these days? Perhaps you know lots of folks who are simply feeling blue. Some have lost loved ones and find this time of year particularly difficult. Others are in the midst of financial struggles and/or loss of a job. We all have friends who dread spending time with certain family members for various reasons. Many people are ill and holidays add even more unnecessary stress. Whatever the reason, is there a way you could share some of your Gifts and make a difference? Could you reach out and give a part of yourself to share hope, light and a bit of love?

Think about it. What if you phoned a friend you know could use some hope and spent an hour of your time with them over lunch or a cup of coffee? Or, what if you gave your favorite cashier at the grocery a small token of appreciation, because she often makes your day a bit brighter? What if you wrote a note to someone who hasn’t heard from you in a while? Could you add some light to their busy week?

Often we apply the “all or none” principle. Let perfection go. When we all do a little something, we add more hope, light and love to a world that is too often filled with darkness, bitterness and never enough love.

Only 13 days until Christmas. Quiet yourself from all the shopping, baking, decorating, etc. Let your unique light shine and fill someone’s heart with hope and love. May God Bless~

“I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them.” The promise of God, Isaiah 42:16 NIV

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