Made any? Have any? What’s the difference and why am I even writing about this?
New Year’s resolutions are a thing. People make them. Most break them.
Statistics show that after 6 months, only 46% of people are successful at keeping a resolution.
By definition, a resolution is a decision to do something or behave in a certain manner.
An aspiration is a strong desire to achieve something high or great.
Aspirations are the dreams you have for your life.
Making the resolution to hit the gym a few times a week sounds like a really good idea; until the alarm goes off and it’s cold, snowy, and the pillow is calling your name.
Aspiring to be a fit person who is living “fit person” ideals NOW, chooses to put on the gym clothes that were set out the night before. And then GO to the gym.
Both involve creating a different habit. Both take work. What differs is the identity behind the habit.
James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, refers to these as “identity-based habits.”
Rather than resolving to lose 10 pounds, think about the person you’d like to become and take on that identity.
What would a fit person do? What would a fit person choose to eat?
The focus is on living as that type of person, not getting a particular outcome.
Resolutions tend to be outcome or achievement driven: exercise more, write a novel, save more money, stop smoking.
A few other examples of identity-based habits:
- When you say “thank you” each day, you take on the identity of a grateful person.
- The goal is not to read one book, the goal is to become a reader.
- If you want to be a musician, practice your instrument every day.
Once you determine the type of person you would like to be (your aspiration), break it down into small steps that you can slowly build upon.
Let’s say you aspire to be a healthy eater. You are a healthy eater when you include at least one piece of fruit or serving of vegetables in your day. When you master that, you can up it to two servings a day.
Any bit of improvement over where you were is a win. Continue to build on other areas as each habit gets easy.
What are your aspirations? Live them today.
If you could use some help creating simple steps to achieve them, email me. I’d love to help you map out a plan to get started.
Health Coach Carol
“If you got a chance, take it, take it while you got a chance. If you got a dream, chase it, ’cause a dream won’t chase you back. If you’re gonna love somebody, hold ’em as long and as strong and as close as you can. ‘Til you can’t.”—Cody Johnson, “Til You Can’t”